I have been wondering a lot about friendship. I know for fact that I do not have one friend except for my husband that I could call on if I needed help. I have had four acquaintances help me out unexpectedly and I have asked several friends for help but interestingly they’re either planning to do other things, busy or don’t feel they have the energy to help anyone else. I would be delighted if I could help them.
I have encountered this several times in my life. There were times that I repeatedly asked my friends if they would walk with me for half an hour once a week. They all had different reasons why they didn’t want to: they already walk with friends, I like to walk with on the Rhône, I don’t like to walk up hills, they don’t like to walk too fast, et cetera. It didn’t actually occur to any of them to think half an hour of my time once a week once a month for a walk because Sarah really wants it it’s not that much to ask.
So of course it gets me wondering about what is friendship. I have always known that I would drop most things to help a friend. And actually have done so. But it has really been reciprocated.
I often wonder whether my requests for a meet up for coffee or a half hour walk Or for a visit to my house to sit on the terrace and drink tea and have a nice sociable time, or interpreted as mild requests rather than requests for company that is much needed, for something that is actually feeling quite urgently important to me.
I have encountered this several times in my life. There were times that I repeatedly asked my friends if they would walk with me for half an hour once a week. They all had different reasons why they didn’t want to: they already walk with friends, I like to walk with on the Rhône, I don’t like to walk up hills, they don’t like to walk too fast, et cetera. It didn’t actually occur to any of them to think half an hour of my time once a week once a month for a walk because Sarah really wants it it’s not that much to ask.
So of course it gets me wondering about what is friendship. I have always known that I would drop most things to help a friend. And actually have done so. But it has really been reciprocated.
I often wonder whether my requests for a meet up for coffee or a half hour walk Or for a visit to my house to sit on the terrace and drink tea and have a nice sociable time, or interpreted as mild requests rather than requests for company that is much needed, for something that is actually feeling quite urgently important to me.
